Please don’t try to face this alone

Cancer is all we are thinking about now, isn’t it? When we wake up, when we sit down for a break, when we are watching our kids play. For the first time in my life, I felt completely and utterly helpless.

Losing Control of our lives

We often don’t think about what it would feel like to lose control of our own lives. At this moment, we feel our control is now completely gone.

We don’t have a choice, do we? To have cancer or not to have cancer! To have surgery, or not to have surgery. To go through chemo, or not to go through chemo. This is not fair!! Why me, why now! So many questions, so few answers. Even if there were answers, it wouldn’t change the sinking feeling we are experiencing.

Finding LIGHT in the darkness

I am here to tell you, there is hope, I am glad that I had family and friends to support me through this because my brain completely shut down. I was frozen and unable to think or process much of anything. It is time to lean on those who want to help.

Lean on others

Lean on your family, close friends, join a group online, and if you don’t have a church family, I would sincerely say you may want to consider finding one. My church family loved and supported me through this very difficult time. Even individuals I never met made my family meals. Kind and loving people would never want you to go through this alone. Allow them into your life.

The people you allow into your cancer journey want you to lean on them, they want you to ask for help, cooking your dinner, buying you dinner, watching your kids, cleaning your house, driving you to appointments, praying for you, doing your grocery shopping. I promise you; people want to help you. You don’t have to do this alone.

Lean on God

You may not believe in God, but you are welcome to read on, if not, that’s okay too.

God brought so many loving and compassionate souls into my life, to support me through this journey. My prayers were answered when I felt like it was an impossibility. Remember when I said I couldn’t breathe? God gave me peace in my situation, and I was able to breath again. Something I didn’t think was possible so soon after finding out I had cancer. So many times, when I prayed, and when I thought it was pointless or my prayers were too great to be answered, God answered these prayers. No, he didn’t answer all prayers that I prayed, but that didn’t mean that he didn’t love or care about me, it just meant he knew I was strong enough, he made me strong enough. Don’t lose hope, there is light in the darkness, I found it and we can find yours together in this journey.

Galatians 6:2, NIV: Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.


Published by trinafreese

Two time cancer survivor! Wife, mother, dog mom, and nurture. Lover and Fighter for life! I am creating this Blog because cancer Turned my world upside down Kicked me in the gut Took the breath out of me Made it hard to breath Made me feel alone! I was 28 when my dreams started coming true, I married the love of my life, I had my little boy, then my little girl and life was falling into place. Things felt amazing, I was floating on a cloud, life was perfect. Well, as perfect as a life could be here on earth. Regardless, I was thankful. Then one beautiful, perfect summer morning my cousin says I may have a genetic mutation the BRCA 1 that would mean I have a higher risk of getting cancer! That is where my Cancer Journey began.

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